Not being able to reach orgasm can be distressing for everyone, regardless of gender. But for those who identify as male, it can be particularly draining. The male orgasm is often portrayed as easy and explosive (watch a porn movie and this will be abundantly clear). For this reason, man’s difficulty in achieving orgasm is perhaps one of the most stigmatized sexual issues.
Not only are these difficulties rarely discussed in society, but they are also rarely studied in sex research. Perhaps that’s because delayed ejaculation (the proper term for it) is fairly rare. It is estimated that between 1-4% of people who identify as male experience delayed ejaculation; compared to the 30% who ejaculate prematurely, the number is small. For this 4%, difficulties arise when they have sexual relations with someone. Going out alone is usually easier. Not being able to orgasm is difficult and can lead to low self-esteem, lack of confidence, and relationship problems.
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